Remember, Remember the 1st of Octember. What Makes Us "Us."

You. Guys. 

It's freakin' October 1st. How did this even happen? I don't know. I also don't know how I've forgotten to answer emails for like, the past week. Or how I totally forgot to pick a blog of the month for October. Oops. I'll get on that asap. Oh, and I promise I'll give you guys an awesome points update later on this week.

Anyway. I guess I'm just a scatter-brain. I'll work on that, but I get the feeling that it's not going to get better anytime soon. In fact, it's probably going to get worse. A whole lot worse.

So. I was talking to that husband of mine last night on the way home from his parents' house (yes, we had a wonderful time, yes, I have pictures, yes, I will share them eventually) about us. We had a few questions about our relationship that we tried to answer.

What makes us a good couple? What could we do better? Why are we awesome? Why do we suck? I've compiled a list of it all (and sprinkled in some pictures of us, just because I can't handle a post without photos... and I wanted to make you all sick).
-- We talk about everything. Poop, cats, babies, movies, family, friends, hopes, fears, dreams, loves, hates, wishes - we talk about it all. There is no such thing as an uncomfortable topic for us.

-- We always work out our arguments... eventually. There are days when we fight over stupid things. I mean really stupid things. There are days where these arguments get out of hand and last way longer than they should. There are hurtful words that are said, but we always work things out. It may take a day or two, but we resolve them.
-- We hardly ever cook. I don't know what we do, because we don't ever eat out, either. I guess we just fend for ourselves or something, but we could definitely use some more time at the dinner table.

-- We sometimes ignore each other. Instead we pay attention to things like computers and video games. Our precious time "together" is spent worlds apart.
-- We're besties. I think that's pretty self-explanatory.

-- We laugh - a lot. There's not a day that goes by that roaring laughter isn't heard in this house. I love that about our relationship.
-- We are selfish. We each have things that we want, and aren't always willing to sacrifice for the other person.

-- We share. I realize it is ridiculous to say this after I just barely told you how selfish we are, but I promise we share. Unless it's the leftover pizza in the fridge, then Mike eats it all. RUDE.
-- We love deeply. Obviously. Our marriage wouldn't function if we didn't love each other more than we love ourselves. Yes, we're each selfish, yes we fight over stupid things like leftover pizza. Yes, we can be overly sensitive. Yes, we know what buttons to push to make each other mad. Yes, we sometimes want to rip the other person's face off. And yes, we have days where we just want to be alone.

You know what, though? That's marriage. It's not easy, but when you love each other more than you love yourself, those things don't matter. The problems, the struggles, the fights - they are so small in comparison to this thing that we have called love. 

They say that love conquers all. You know what?! I think they're right. Love is an amazing thing, and I'm happy and incredibly blessed to have found it with Michael.
What makes you and your significant other awesome? What could you do better? What do you have that makes your relationship special or unique? 

If you don't have a significant other, what do you look or hope for in a relationship? 

28 comments:

Sara Louise said...

Being able to laugh together everyday is so important. So glad that you two have that too :)

Maša said...

awww. :) I don't have a significant other, but I like to have a lot of "me" time. I don't mind being together a lot as long as I can do my stuff.

Alex Butts said...

I think we can all hope to be an Alyx and Mike someday - y'all are precious!

Laura said...

Sounds to me like a very healthy marriage. You are wise beyond your years Alyx. Keep laughing. Have a great week!

Katrin said...

Aww, you two are so awesome! :)) Love you guys!
David is my best friend and we laugh a lot but we also fight about stupid things like you do. :) But we figure it out eventually. :)

Brooke said...

Yes yes and yes. The bottom line is that we love each other and our marriage more than our own selfish desires, and that's what counts.

Love this post, love you. That's all :)

Eve Myers said...

You two remind me of a couple I know!

Madeline Grace said...

All of these pictures are absolutely adorable! I think the very first one is one of my favorite!

Mr. H is my best friend and I think that is one of the things that makes us such a good couple. We can talk about anything and everything.

briannaasaro.com said...

HAHA!! I think it's funny that you said "you share." When I first got married, I had a hard time when my husband would take one of my CDs or DVDs. I got pissed off but then realized what was mine was his, too. Okay, I don't really believe that. They're mine. He can borrow them. I'm not a good share-er at all!

Vapid Vixen said...

"... and I wanted to make you all sick)."

Mission accomplished. ;)

This is probably one of my favorite posts of yours so far.

Evani Gatsby said...

I never know how to answer the question of "How do you guys do it?". I always feel a little guilty saying how I really feel, that is just comes naturally. I mean there are definitely moments where it's not all sunshine and rainbows but at the end of the day, it just feels RIGHT. We don't have to work at "the good times". But that makes me an ass to say that. Hahaha

riana. said...

Aww... i love the way you describe love and your relationship togther. super sweet.

btw, my favortie picture out of alll of them was the one where you both look mad, it made me crack up. hahaha.

Tarrah Clausnitzer said...

I think being able to admit the things that 'suck' about your relationship is great! I can't stand the couples who live in a bubble of seemingly endless perfection. My fiance and I have at least one petty fight a day I feel like. Which is good! We both speak our minds and don't bottle up what bothers us. It makes for less really big fights down the road in my opinion :)

RadiantKristen said...

I love this! I love how it's the contradictions that tend to make the downfalls "work" better. Yeah, you're a pizza hog... but you still have Michael's back on the important stuff!

Also, poop is an important area of discussion. Ammon never realized how important it was until I explained it to him. He gets it now.

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

The most important thing I learned from my divorce is what is really important to me in a significant other. When Izzy and I started dating I told him I had one rule: we had to be honest with each other about EVERYTHING. I never, ever want to be in a relationship where there are lies every again. I just CAN'T.

Thus far I have to say I am the happiest I've ever been.

And I'm so glad to read what a real relationship you have with your awesome hubs.

Kim @ wanderlustee.com said...

:)

this post made me smile. i think that you guys have it down!! i feel the same way about felipe + i ... the only thing is that im kind of a crazy face about not letting fights drag on ...like, if one of us walks away that's not okay with me but im realizing that it should be because sometimes you go to sleep angry and you wake up and youre like, wow, what were we even arguing about? (actual words felipe said to me 2 weeks ago, 'what were we fighting about last night?' me: 'i have no idea'. hahaha)

Brittany said...

I love this post :) so sweet

Sarah Kate said...

You guys are pretty awesome!! That first picture you posted is my favorite!!! :o)

Ya'll sound a LOT like us, except for the cooking part. That's something Cory and I really like to do together while sharing a bottle of wine! A lot of silliness happens on those nights! :o) In November we will have been together for TEN years!! Ten!!! Crazy...

Genna said...

I just found your blog and I love you two! You seem to fit so perfectly together. Looking forward to getting to know you more :)

lissa said...

I'm jealous, I would like a relationship just like yours, although I probably won't fight over the last slice of pizza, I think he should be the 'fat' spouse or at least not be so skinny, is that selfish?

hope you have a great day.

Whitney said...

I absolutely love this post. I know exactly what you mean. Hubs and I have been "ignoring" each other for a while since he's playing video games and I'm blogging. That last picture is to. die. for. You gorgeous girl you!

Kell said...

I just loved this post. Like.. everything about it. You two are adorable.
I love that I can look into my boyfriend's eyes and see the love he has for me. Maybe that sounds weird, but it's comforting.

Elsha Bodily said...

What do you eat? I am completely bewildered....although I do think my life would be a more beautiful place if I didn't cook. I love everything you said because you are right! That's marriage:)

Kym said...

Alyx, I love this post. It's so sweet and really made me start thinking of all the things that make J & me a great couple :) And I realized that there is no topic too uncomfortable for us, either. Well, that is, I'm comfortable enough to blurt out every strange, gross, or ridiculous thing that pops into my head. My boyfriend practices a little more restraint :)

xo
Kym
bitty.and.bunny

Kassi Mortensen said...

Aw yay! That sounds like an intense conversation! ;) There are lots of things that we both do/don't do well, but one that comes to mind as of late, is being more open with one another. Before a few months ago, I had no idea really what the hubs did at work... I knew he went, the gist of what he does, but not really. He knew that I blogged, he'd seen and heard about a few things, but again, not really.... Over the last while we've really talked about those things. It's not that either of us was hiding anything from the other, just that we didn't realize the other would be interested. And to be honest, I could care less what happens at his work, unless he's involved. Because he's interested, I'm interested and vice versa. :)

Anna said...

I think the 'talk about everything' part is HUGE. communication, even if it's about poop or cats, makes it that much easier to talk about the REALLY hard stuff...like money or meal plans. :) ha, the two things I get worked up about. anyway, I'm sure you get this all the time, but you guys seem perfect together. :)

Bri Buzali said...

This is so so cute! I love it :)

Cocalores said...

What a cute post! You seem to be perfect for each other.

I just could help laughing when I read that your #1 conversation topic is poop. Ha ha!